Mary Margaret Dobbs (1913-1980) was born in Ackerman, Choctaw County, Mississippi on December 11, 1913. On February 14, 1934 she married Alston Jones McCaslin IV. They moved to Eupora, Mississippi and had two sons. On July 8, 1953 Alston was killed in an accident. On the one year anniversary of her husband’s death Mary Margaret wrote C. S. Lewis for only the second time and notified him of her husband’s tragic passing.
Lewis was saddened to hear the news but knew, as Mary Margaret knew, that not all was lost. In his short response Lewis sends along these encouraging words,
“I can well believe that you were divinely supported at the time of your terrible calamity. People often are. It is afterwards, when the new and bleaker life is beginning to be a routine, that one often feels one has been left rather unaided. I am sure one is not really so. God’s presence is not the same as the feeling of God’s presence and He may be doing most for us when we think He is doing least.”1
That last sentence is well worth memorizing.
“For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” – Isaiah 55:9.
1. Walter Hooper, ed., The Collected Letters of C. S. Lewis: Narnia, Cambridge, and Joy 1950-1963, Vol. III (New York: HarperSanFrancisco, 2007), 501.